The ABCs of Erotica

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Today, we’re all blogging about one of my favorite topics – romance!

Usually when we think of romantic gestures, we think of flowers, chocolates or a bottle of wine. When we contemplate romantic activities, we might imagine a candlelit dinner or walk on the beach. However, some studies show that while love poetry might be appreciated, real romance involves doing the dishes. Just do a Google search on “men doing housework” and you’ll find a host of articles describing how men who pitch in have happier marriages, better sex lives and lower rates of divorce. This is not to say that women don’t love receiving flowers or that occasional bottle of perfume, but it does seem to indicate that what happens day in and day out is more important over the long term.

There are a number of hypotheses about why a more equitable division of housework leads to happiness in the bedroom. Could it be a sign of respect? Is it simply more fair? If the household and childcare duties are more evenly divided, does that free up time and energy for other activities? My question would be, is the relationship happier because a man does more housework or are men who do more housework more supportive partners?

Speaking for myself, I’m thrilled when my husband empties the dishwasher without being asked.

What do you find romantic?


For your reading pleasure, here is a little snippet from my work in progress. Remember – it’s unedited so be gentle!


Marcus reluctantly lifted her away from himself “Privacy. We need some privacy.” Marcus took her hand and led her below. He guided her into a stateroom and firmly closed the door.

Tabitha turned toward Marcus and the look on his face froze her. It was predatory, blatantly sexual. His gaze trapped her and her heart began to race. Everything that was female inside her responded to his purely masculine intent.

In a flash, he captured her in his arms and plundered her mouth. He bore her down to the carpet and his hands grappled with her clothing. He tugged her bikini top off and seized her nipple with his mouth. Tabitha bucked under the onslaught. She gloried in the strength of his need, which sparked in her an answering desire.


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Comments on: "What is Romantic? Find Out by Romancing the H0P – Kindle, GC and Swag Pack Up for Grabs" (71)

  1. what I would find romantic is if my guy does little things like say washing the dishes, taking out the trash or stuff like that–it makes life easier and its a nice suprize when i find they are done b/f i have a chance to do them!

  2. Cooking dinner together and talking then cleaning up together after dinner

  3. What I find romanctic, hmmmm. I find that when my dh does something that maybe he doesn’t really enjoy to much but knows I love and he’s doing it for me without griping extremely romantic. It shows me that I’m the most important thing to him.

  4. OMG! I too love it when my husband empties the dishwasher! It’s the little things…

  5. Kelsey S. said:

    After 20+ years with my husband I find just being alone with him to be romantic. It doesn’t happen a lot with three kids, but that’s what I love most. Just sitting on the couch and cuddling makes me feel loved.

    kesummer69 at gmail dot com

  6. Him ordering in a meal for no reason – and picking something he knows I will like (not just pizza )

    thank you for participating

  7. I think men who do homework are just more supportive partners, they see a need and fill it and teamwork makes the relationship work

    fencingromein at hotmail dot com

  8. I am always happy when my husband cleans up and does the dishes after supper.
    skpetal at hotmail dot com

  9. What I find romantic are the small gestures — my husband once offered to buy me a new wallet because my old one was, well, old. (I hadn’t even noticed!)

    Thank you!

    – Tin
    khriscc (at) yahoo (dot) com

  10. I just signed up for your email. Yay! What a fun hop! delphinareadstoomuch at yahoo

  11. Crystal Young said:

    When he soes the little things a load of laundry dishes a flower for no reason renting a movie and cuddling on the coach Thanks for the giveaway
    crystaley73 at yahoo dot com

  12. I love quiet time together.


  13. Romance is an art of communicating. Holding hands is my favorite way to be romantic. A touch, a caress with the thumb, and no words are needed. To hold hands and feel the heart of another is better than any amount of cleaning he can do. πŸ™‚

  14. Suprise visitS! I love it when my wife visits me at work out of the blue!

  15. My DH and I share the household chores, at least most of them. We work at the same company and in my opinion we both work hard at work and one of us shouldn’t have to do all the house work. So we split the chores. I cook dinners and anytime my DH takes me to dinner I’m in heaven. I hate cooking. πŸ™‚

    beckerjo at verizon dot net

  16. Romantic for me is knowing I had a long day, I come home to a set up of red wine, cheeses and our favorite came of jenga. We just spread out in the living room floor enjoying each other’s company.

  17. I’ll take housework as more romantic than flowers & chocolate.
    bituin76 AT hotmail DOT com

  18. Just spending time together doing anything or nothing at all is romantic to me.

    koonie2888 at yahoo dot com

  19. Lisa Walker said:

    I find it romantic when my husband brings home dinner so I can take a night off from cooking.

  20. Thanks for the giveaway. I liked you on Facebook while I was here. :0)


  21. There is nothing sexier than a guy who knows his way around the kitchen!

    mcv111 at hotmail dot com

  22. Washing dishes is a big one. It’s something I hate doing, but my husband doesn’t mind. It’s nice when he waters my plants too.
    j.carey.martin at gmail dot com

  23. Working together to make a meal would be romantic. For me, romance is all about the trust and respect built between the characters. Since I write BDSM, these elements are very important.
    Thank you for participating in the blog hop!

  24. For me it’s the little things that shows he cares that makes me melt πŸ™‚
    Thanks for the awesome & amazing giveaway!

  25. I love the little things…holding hands, sharing pizza and whatever..

  26. Crystal Craig said:

    I most definitely agree that splitting the work up around the house is very romantic! I love it when my boyfriend cooks for me and then the next day, I’ll cook for him and he loves it as well. πŸ™‚


  27. Lona Stringer said:

    I a massage from my hubby is very romantic. Thx for giveaway.

    blinkysthebest at aol dot com

  28. I love when my husband touches the nape of my neck , it is his way of showing me his love for me…I also love when he set’s up our massage table and calls me to our bedroom to give me a full body massage….that is romance…

  29. I definitely would appreciate it if a man unexpectedly cleaned something rather than bought me flowers.

    Thanks for doing this giveaway!
    pinkbonanza{ AT }gmail{ DOT }com

  30. The most romantic thing my husband can do for me is clean. I feel so appreciated when he clean the house. Maybe I’m weird, but that’s me.

    Romance is about building relationships πŸ™‚ Fun hop! Love the blog!

  31. I agree doing the dishes can be romantic. I also love when my hubby cooks dinner. It is so sweet because then I can enjoy it. lol Thank you for the giveaway.

  32. Great post!! I think the little things that are done out of the blue just because he loves you are the most romantic!!

    thanks for the contest!!

  33. Thanks for being part of the hop

    bacchus76 at myself dot com

  34. Romantic to me is the little things like him making a dinner and offering to do the cleaning after. Yes I’m easily pleased but that’s me

  35. A surprise dinner is always romantic.

    Thanks for the chance!

    spamscape [at] gmail [dot] com

  36. What I find romantic is the little things. Like when my husband offers to bath our son to give me a break. Or maybe he would grab me just dance in the living. A soft caress on the face. An “I love you” for no reason. I would love to win… πŸ˜‰

  37. My hubby and I were just talking yesterday about housework and such. He usually does the vacuuming and helps with the laundry and I do the bathrooms, kitchen, and dusting. We make the bed together and usually empty the dishwasher together if we’re both home. It’s made for a happy household!

  38. I find the little things romantic like holding hands or opening doors, or of course flowers!


  39. Vanessa N. said:

    It really is the little things he does such as cooking dinner or the little affectionate gestures like a kiss to my neck.

  40. I love small gestures! Flowers and chocolate or just a dinner together.. Thank you for the excerpt!
    verusbognar (at) gmail (dot) com

  41. Loved the snippet. I look forward in reading it.

    booklover0226 at gmail dot com

  42. For me the most important aspect of romance is the growing intimacy and chemistry {non sexual} between people.
    Thanks for participating in the hop and giving us all a chance to win.

  43. Thanks for participating! Really like the hop so far!! I love reading, especially romance. I love reading contemporary, historical and erotic romance. I love the happy ending that is garenteed at the end. My favorite book is Lover Mine by JR Ward! I love John Matthew and Xhex. My favorite romantic moment was when my fiancΓ© asked me to marry him! We meant two years ago right around when summer was ending when my friend and I went out for our last big night out before classes started again. I think it is romantic when he brings me flowers because no one else has ever done it! Thanks so much! Hope everyone else is having a great long weekend!!

  44. Elizabeth H. said:

    Romantic gesture, I love when a man holds my hand. Thank you for joining the hop and for the awesome giveaway!
    ehaney578 at aol dot com

  45. In the beginning it was wining and dining, sending or bringing flowers. Now after 13 years and 4 kids it helping with dinner, cleaning, or watching the kids while I relax and take a bubble bath.

  46. Thanks for the awesome hop and giveaways! This is so much fun! Thank you! My favorite thing about romance is the romance. lol I love the characters, the plots, the HEA’s, the love. I love it all!

  47. I think the simplest gestures are romantic like holding hands while going for a walk. Thanks for the giveaway!

  48. Romance Hop…loving it! But so many sites in so little time! No doubt, I believe in romance! Pretty Woman….my fav movie, proves that there’s an HEA for any and everyone.
    Romantic love makes the world a better place!

    Thank you for the opportunity to visit your site to check out your work.


  49. Thanks tons for the hop! I only read romance. My fav is Lora Leigh! Going to parade Monday with brothers and sisters! Should be FUN!

  50. Awesome hop – thanks! And I dig your excerpt. πŸ™‚
    As for housework – hell yeah, it’s a major perk when DH chips in and takes care of things. Especially when I don’t have to ask him to. Now, getting him to understand and accept that that really does influence how hot I find him? Another story! LOL.

  51. Someone making a meal for no reason


  52. When he does something to make me feel better or more comfortable… like doing the dishes , or getting up early to light the fire so the house will be warm for me…

    maryjooller [at] yahoo [dot] com

  53. Great post! I honestly think that in today’s world, women have to do way more than men do, cooking, cleaning and caring for the children. Those three are usually done before, during and after working a regular job so we’re tired and usually not in a very friendly mood towards anyone when we have a few moments to ourselves. It’s always great AND sexy if a man steps in to help even the load, it’s the sign of a real partnership and real love. I mean if you love someone why would you put so much pressure on them to do everything right?

    The best and most romantic thing a man could do for me and I’m sure other ladies will agree, is be a 50/50 partner. If I’ve made dinner, wash the dishes. If I’ve had a long day, say “Just go lay down, I’ll take care of things,” if I’m cleaning the house, do the laundry. That is so romantic and sexy at the same time.

    These are just my thoughts from experience and watching those around me.


  54. So many great thoughts! Day to day is where the romance is! Keep the comments coming πŸ™‚

  55. I love romance because I get to fall in love over and over. Just such a wonderful feeling.

    I have many of your ABC books. A little behind on reading them. But I do love them! Not to mention Mia’s Cop Craving 1 and 2. Working on 2. Very hot!!

    bournmelissa at hotmail dot com

  56. I think if they help out “without your asking” then they are probably just more supportive. And I have met or heard of men like this. If mine were like that it would certainly make my marriage a bit better. I even tell him, don’t buy me a birthday present, catch me up on the laundry or cook or do dishes, something. I’d be just as happy with that.

    doxisrcool at aol dot com

  57. Michele L. said:

    I think making each other laugh is romatic
    Michele Lawrence

    shermie40 at yahoo dot com

  58. susan platt said:

    Romantic in real life? My husband taking the kids out of the house for an hour so I can have some “ME” time! Being a stay at home mom, those moments of ME are precious and that my husband tries to give me them is romantic. I read romance (in between diaper changes and carpooling) as a little tiny escape.

    susanmplatt AT hotmail DOT com

  59. I happen to agree with the division of work. It makes me life easier and I don’t feel like a maid. I want to feel like we are in this together. when he helps it makes me happy.

  60. Yazmin Rangel said:

    Thank you for being part of the blog hop. πŸ™‚


  61. I like it when my husband helps me out or surprises me, but for me romance is just all the little things, us laughing together and spending time together doing the things we like to do.


  62. What I find romantic is when I guy does something really nice for you!
    Thanks for the great giveaway!

  63. I like it when my wife greets me with a kiss at the door, which is always. Then she brings me dinner and flashes me on the way to the kitchen to get drinks.
    I’m easy though.
    She likes it when I cook or bring home dinner and clean up dishes. And then I flash her from the kitchen.

  64. I find it romantic when my husband does unsolicited nice things for me – especially when it involves foot rubs πŸ™‚

    jochibi AT yahoo DOT com

  65. I agree with many of the other its is nice when the share of household chores is equally divided.. or when my fiance and I share reading a romance book and taking time afterward to chat about it,…

  66. When I get home from work and he has dinner fixed.
    sstrode at scrtc dot com

  67. When my hubby fills my car up with gas (without me asking) or every morning when he makes my work day “to go” tea…It’s the sweet every day things that I think are romantic.
    catherinelee100 at gmail dot com

  68. Thanks for being a part of the hop. I hope that you had a great labor day weekend! I find little things romantic. One song that I think describes it would be Buy me a Rose by Kenny Rogers. Just little out of the blue things.
    jessangil at gmail dot com

  69. What I find romantic is when my husband told me to really listen to the words to “A Whole New World” from Disney’s movie Aladdin. It’s the little things that touch my heart.

  70. Congratulations to Shannon – our gift card winner. Look for an email from me πŸ˜‰

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